Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry: How to Get Him – and How to Keep Him
Publisher: Adams Media
Publication Date: March 18, 2009
Format: Paperback, 240 pages
I have to admit that I am curious about people’s lives and why they ultimately make the decisions that they make, so when I heard about Will Marry for Food, Sex, and Laundry, my interest was definitely piqued. Why do men decide to marry, and can a woman really do certain things to increase her odds of a proposal? The reformed bachelor sharing his perspective, Simon Oaks, has divided his book into four sections: How to Find Him, How to Attract Him, How To Keep Him and finally, How to Stay With Him. In each section, he offers what he deems to be the most important pieces of the equation. Interspersed throughout the book are sections called “Straight from the Horses Mouth”, detailing pertinent experiences from Oaks’ own life, and at the end of each chapter he thoughtfully includes a box called “Wrap It Up”, where he gets to the heart of the matter and briefly summarizes key takeaways from each chapter in short and surprisingly astute sentences (more on that later).
I can’t say that I found much new information in any of the sections, instead there were the same tired cliches about the way to a man’s heart being through his stomach, do the chores that you are comfortable with (and those will most likely be in the kitchen) and be inventive in the bedroom. H even includes a sample menu of dishes that you can make for “your man” according to whether he is a big carnivore, vegetarian, or just your average garbage disposal eating anything and everything in sight. That was pretty much the long and the short of it, and I think I have heard all of it before. Picking up the latest issue of Cosmo and reading this book are essentially the same thing.
I waffled between being mildly amused and furious with the book’s blatant sexism. Oaks mentions at the beginning of the book that he will be largely relying on stereotypes because “stereotypes aren’t created without foundation.” It was really hard to come away from this book with much more than a woman’s need to be a slave to the guy she is with and anticipate his every need without becoming either boring or too much like his mother in order to achieve the big pay off- marriage. Part Two of the book is prefaced with, “Girl finds boy. Girl Likes boy. Girl needs to feed, satisfy and clean boy.” Eww. Are women looking for husbands or full grown babies?
The most valuable section for me was the last, where the author seems to show some sense and say that relationships are a two way street that require compromise and balance. The short wrap ups at the end of each chapter also show sense and seem to be at odds with the rest of the book, and I often wondered who he was aiming for as an audience. A few parts were hilarious, whether because they were so outrageous or in some instances very familiar, and others were just plain offensive and off-putting. The common sense he started speaking at the end didn’t really save the reading experience for me. I got whiplash trying to keep up with all the contradictory tones and statements.
About the Author: Simon Oaks was born and raised in England. He grew up in a world dominated by women in the form of
his mum, sister, aunts and a host of female cousins—none of whom thought he was listening while they were talking amongst themselves. He swore he’d remain single for life. But now this former race car driver turned writer is a bachelor turned husband, and is letting the women out there know the secrets behind making a man commit. He’s partial to Special-K— and looks great in jeans because of it. He now lives in Northern California with his American wife of ten years. Contact Simon at simon@simonoaks.com.
Visit Simon Oak’s website at: www.simonoaks.
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I enjoyed your review, but I have to say I don’t like the title or concept of the book at all. It implies that women have to trick men into having a relationship with them.
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Kathy, I think I was expecting that the title was more for humor and that the actual book would have some depth along with the humor. So I was disappointed that there wasn’t enough of that.
I love this review! I think I’d feel the same way about this book.
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I laughed out loud when I read the title, and was also expecting more of a humor book.
~ Wendi
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I certainly anticipated humour when I read the title on your other post. Of course, I hadn’t seen the subtitle yet! Now I don’t think I’ll be looking for it at the library. My Cosmo-reading days are long in the past.
If that’s what marriage is, and that’s how to get married and stay married… what woman in her right mind would do it? (Or perhaps, she says a little cynically, this explains the divorce rates, which, when a woman is financially solid, are far more likely to be initiated by the woman.)
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